Joe's view on Dating and Mating

2005-12-30 21:54 GMT

As everybody who follow the western calendar are aware, year is changing tomorrow. Of course changing number on your calendar is totally meaningless, since we can live only in this moment, but in the time of quartal-economics, it is easy to mark your successes and achievements by tying them into dates. For some reason it reminded me, an almost qualified expert in social ethics and especially in social contracts, how dating and mating process isn't as clearly contract based as it could be in a world according to Joe's diary.

Situation now:
You were born free. At some point you decide to mate with whomever you prefer. Before doing this you don't have any binding contracts with the people you may or may not have sex with aka. date. Then you decide to go steady and by doing that, you make a special and sometimes very detailed contract with your partner. This contract defines the circumstances where it is acceptable to end contract and the relationship. In most of the cases once the contract is terminated there will remain bad blood between the former lovers. It sucks.

How it should be:
Instead of making contracts that need an excuse to end, why can't we make these relationship contracts with "best before"-date? And I bet there isn't a soul who could argue that it would be a bad idea to set the date to be for example New Years Eve. So what I am saying is that it would be in everyones interests to end all relationships everywhere at the same time.

This would lead to situation where at the beginning of January everybody would be single and available. And everybody would know that. Everyone would have a fair chance on everyone they would meet. Sounds good doesn't it?

Probably by the end of the March most of us would have found someone to spend the rest of the year with. Then the social opportunities would just began! You would meet the family and friends of your new partners and thus enlarge the group of people you are acquinted with. And no matter how bad things would turn out, you could legally end the relationship as friends on the next New Years Eve.

Happy New Year!

Joe